You Are As Important As You Think You Are

There is no one out there in the world that went after their goals and succeeded and didn’t think they were important enough to do so. To make something happen in your life, for you to actually go after something you want, or to become the person you want to be, you have to believe you are worthy and capable of that. You can grow up being told you are the most important person in the world, or you can grow up with no praise or appreciation at all and yet the only way you are going to think you are important is if you, yourself, think that you are.

When you think about a company, let’s say a mid-scale clothing brand vs. a luxury designer, the difference between the two is that the luxury designer started out with the intention of being high end, important, and less obtainable to everyone. This company believed their product was special, and that it deserved to be looked at that way. The reality is, the attitude that you have towards yourself is the attitude that everyone else is going to have towards you. If you allow people to walk all over you, they will. If you continuously make fun of yourself and talk down on yourself, others will too, and let me tell you, making a joke about an insecurity of yours is only asking for others to make you feel better, it’s cheap. Yet, if you view yourself as respectable, bad-ass, unstoppable, sexy, smart, confident, and then live your life accordingly, that is how others will view you too. Nobody looks up to someone who is seeking compliments, they look up to the person who doesn’t need them.

In grade school, I struggled with feeling like I was good enough at things. I really struggled with school, I struggled with having good friends, with staying accountable. I struggled with simply feeling like I was good enough in plenty of areas, I never really felt proud of what I had done or confident in what I could do. Others around me saw this, and rarely hesitated to get a rise out of me by pointing them out. There were moments that I felt like my identity was being dumb, that I may as well laugh about it and accept it. I remember in grade 11, a classmate showed me this picture of a young woman who married a very wealthy, very old man and she said “that’s going to be you”. I didn’t disagree.

It was when I moved away from home, when I was done with school, that I started to realize my worth was so much more, and not only that but I discovered I had an incredible talent, and then I discovered another talent! It didn’t take long for me to start thinking of myself as a f*cking bad ass, which opened me up to the other great qualities I have as well, that had been buried beneath my desperation to succeed at what wasn’t meant for me. I decided it was time for me to stop looking down on myself, and decide I was important, and that I was going to become even more important. I have big goals, ones that I know will take hard work, energy, time, but none of what I want can be accomplished without me feeling like I am worthy of doing so, and that I am important enough to follow through. 

When you step, people follow, especially when you make that step look dominant. You have to know who you are, and stand firm in how you view yourself and the pedestal you put yourself on. I already look back at what my grade 11 classmate said, and I laugh. I laugh to myself because my goal is to surpass numerous wealthy old men in terms of success, and I will.