Being Single Is A Blessing

I will never be the person who bluntly tells you to dump someone — that’s not my approach. But I will be the person who asks you to pause, breathe, and genuinely reflect on how you feel in your relationship. Are you actually happy with them, or are you simply terrified of being unhappy by yourself?

Having anxiety around being — or becoming — single is normal. I don't judge you, i've been there. But being single is always better than being in a relationship that’s draining you, confusing you, or keeping you small. And if you want my honest opinion, being single is often when you grow the most. The fear isn’t really about losing the person — it’s about doubting your own ability to thrive alone.

Often, we can’t even admit to ourselves that what we really love is the familiarity. The company. The routine. The comfort of what we already know. But life is not meant to stay familiar forever — especially when the familiar is quietly suffocating you.

Being scared of what’s next but choosing it anyway will always serve you more than staying in something that’s guaranteed to keep you miserably stagnant.

To be very clear: I know couples who’ve had rough patches (who hasn’t?) and have grown into incredibly loving, secure partnerships. Healthy relationships aren’t linear, and I LOVE love. But I love a love that leaves both people feeling steady, supported, and frequently happy. If your joy is consistently overshadowed by anxiety, isolation, arguing, second-guessing, or emotional exhaustion — something is wrong. And you owe it to yourself to fight for your own happiness.

Now, I genuinely believe that speaking poorly about an ex is beneath us all. Breakups happen for a reason, no matter the circumstances. The point is that the chapter is over. What matters now is not them — it’s you. Your past belongs exactly where it is: behind you.

With that said, every single one of my breakups ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. My world expanded in ways I couldn’t have imagined. It had nothing to do with proving a point or moving on quickly — it was the simple realization that I am the most important person in my life. I get to shape my own direction. Even without knowing exactly what my future would look like, I knew those chapters were meant to be mine alone. And honestly, I feel like I’m in my best chapter yet.

Every time life knocks the wind out of you, I promise you’re closer than ever to surprising yourself. These are the moments you discover what you’re really capable of — emotionally, spiritually, mentally. These are the moments that stretch you into the next version of yourself.

Short-term pain for long-term gain is something I live by, and trust me — coming from one of the most impatient people alive (i'm working on it ok?) — that means something. At the root of it all is self-prioritization.

Each breakup has left me more grounded, more confident, and more connected to myself. Not instantly, of course — emotions come in waves. Sometimes gentle, sometimes like getting slammed in the face. But the magic happens when you decide to trust the direction those waves are pulling you.

Being single especially this time around has changed me in ways I never expected — all for the better. I’ve found balance. I’ve reached new levels of honesty with myself. I stand firmer in who I am. I laugh harder, love deeper, and appreciate my life with so much more intention. I feel more open, more present, and more me than ever before.

Breakups are painful — more painful than people acknowledge — but eventually, you reach a crossroads: grow from it or let it devour you.

This isn’t about encouraging you to end your relationship. It’s about encouraging you to stop abandoning yourself, to stop choosing comfort over your own well-being, and to stop shrinking out of fear of change.

Choosing to be single, when it mattered most, proved one thing to me: I am capable. I am brave enough to walk into the unknown with no guarantee — and trust myself anyway. And every single time, without fail, I’ve landed somewhere better.