My Big 3

Take Accountability: I’ve made countless mistakes in my life — and I’ll make more. It would be naive to think I’ll never hurt someone, embarrass myself, or feel ashamed by an action again. But one thing I’ll never fail to do is own it, I will always apologize — and mean it.

Mistakes are what make us human. They are what teach us humility and growth. I can’t promise perfection, nobody can, but I can promise a commitment to self-awareness and improvement.

Taking accountability doesn’t just mean saying “I’m sorry.” It means sitting with the discomfort. It means resisting the urge to seek external validation to feel better about yourself. It’s about being honest when you’ve messed up and holding yourself through the unease that follows.

My biggest goal in life is to be deeply proud of the person I am — and that cannot happen if I’m always looking outward for someone to blame. Mistakes don’t make you a bad person; denying them does. Growth begins when you recognize your wrongs and choose to do better next time.

Focus On Myself: You are you — intentionally. You are not meant to live for others’ approval or to drain yourself trying to fill someone else’s cup. You are not meant to shrink or bend yourself into someone else’s version of “enough.”

For so long, I obsessed over being liked. Not even liked — just not disliked. I couldn’t stand the idea of disappointing someone. I compared myself constantly, convinced I was falling behind. I would try to look at myself from another person’s perspective, imagining what they might disapprove of — and then I’d do almost everything to try and change it.

The problem with that is simple: you hand over your power. You start playing a game that no one ever wins. When you live according to how you think others will view you, you lose touch with who you are. You lose the magic of your originality.

And here’s the truth I’ve now etched into my head: no one is thinking about you that much. The only person whose opinion of you truly matters is you.

I can also admit — when I’ve judged someone before, it was usually because I was feeling insecure. That reminder helps me not take other people’s judgments personally. Often, what others project says far more about them than it ever does about you.

Push Myself: This one applies to every part of my life. If you’re lazy in one area, it tends to spill into others. Growth doesn’t happen through convenience — it happens through consistency.

No one else is responsible for taking care of me. No one can do the hard things for me. And honestly, that’s a gift — because the hard things are where the most growth lives.

I keep my space clean and calm. I show up at work and give my best, no matter what the job is. I nourish my body and move it with intention. These are small daily acts that prove I deserve to feel good — that I’m capable of showing up for myself.

When you choose the easy way out, neglect your needs, or avoid effort, you’re quietly teaching yourself that you’re not worth the work. But you are. Every time you follow through, even in the smallest ways, you reinforce the truth that you are deserving of your own care.